Meet Dr. Kaye Smith
“I’m a woman of faith, of great spiritual faith, in fact. If I didn’t have my faith, I don’t think I could have ever helped as many women and families as I have, to overcome the multi-tormenting, long-term affects of sexual abuse. One by one, I’ve helped them speak up, and separate themselves from the darkest hours of a human soul. I traveled deep into their childhoods – only stopping occasionally to weep for myself and weep for others. Some of my counselees held different spiritual beliefs than I. That never mattered to me. At times, I realized that I had to draw on my faith to carry us all.” Dr. Kaye Smith.
I’ve worked with sexual abuse victims daily for over fifteen years. I began helping sexually abused men, woman and children. I’ve counseled with perpetrators. I’ve even helped prosecute some.
Since 1995, I’ve learned a few things about the horrors that accompany this god-awful crime. It literally robs its victims from their full potential. Sexual abuse shows no prejudice to sex, race, creed, education, culture, religion, social status, location, home, family, neighborhood, or nation.
In 2008, I began a support group for women who were sexually abused in their childhood. We’ve met every week for three years. I’ve been on a giant learning curve. I’ve been in the trenches myself, and I’ve walked in the trenches with other women helping them reclaim their lives from the trauma and control their sexual abuse has had over them. We call ourselves “Reclaimers.” (Click here to read Dr. Kaye’s Telling about her sexual abuse.)
Sexual Abuse is Rampant. The Statistics are skewed way too low.
Sexual abuse is epidemic, spreading like the worst societal plague; one that, if not stopped, will corrupt the very fiber of our morals and social order. Today, sexual abuse is far more pandemic than realized. It’s like a virulent disease. It is endemic and has become all too common. It is a defacement of humanity. It is a severe crime against the human race around the world, and always has more consequences for the victim than the abuser. This must change. Sexual abuse must be talked about, even its sordid details. It must not be quelled. We cannot ever look the other way again. We cannot react to sexual abuse with fear or shame.
Sexual abuse burns underground, in dark, seedy places, in the gutters of the demented, in the caverns of the most perverted minds. They stalk our children everyday. It destroys the safety of our homes, where most sexual abuse occurs. This fire begins scarring the child inside, the very first time she is touched. It sears and breeds unimaginable diseases and pain inside her soul. This should never, ever happen.
Sexual abuse can’t happen anymore. Not on our watch.
We are the Reclaimers. We have taken our lives back and put our sexual abuse in perspective. We were innocent. When we were abused, someone should have noticed. Someone should have watched over us, especially in our beds at night, where we should have felt the safest. We will do everything we can to help mothers understand the biggest danger for their little girls is in and around the home, and especially in their beds at night. We beg you — please watch everyone, anyone who comes near your daughter.
One of the slyest beasts on the earth is the human being who sexually molests children.
A sexual abuser will abuse over and over again. I have known one man who abused children for 30, and even 40 years. Even after they were caught in the family and was warned to never do it again, he set up his next victim.
Sexual abuse is an addiction worse than crack. Yet, a sexual abuser’s appetite is insatiable. He never gets a fix that satisfies him. A crack whore will do most of her tricks in the dark. However, the lengths a sexual abuser will go to get to children are incomprehensible by the decent human mind. He is a beast. He stalks, hunts, and through intimidation he beguiles those who are weaker than him. His brazenness is unfathomable.